logo

        Michael Reddy, Ph.D, CPC
           Healer  Trainer  Author   610 469 7588

Monday June 26, 2017
Font Size
   

Blog

Constellations Own Ancestors--Are They Acknowledged?

Who are the intellectual grandparents of systemic constellations? Are they acknowledged or rather more forgotten?

USCan flagsDo those questions have anything to do with the fact that the US and Canada lag behind the rest of the world in adopting this powerful healing tool?

This subject is part of the first US-Canadian Constellation Conversation, starting Thurs Feb 19th. Join us in these via either the live sessions or recordings you can hear anytime.

Some Constellation Ancestors Are
Acknowledged--Others Not So Much

zuluThat Hellinger was deeply influenced by the indigenous Zulu's, systemics, and the philosophy of European Phenomenology is pretty well known & often spoken about.

But about the therapeutic tools that Bert learned from, reshaped, added to, and creatively synthesized to form the classic group constellation--we don't hear so much.

Seems Like Many of Constellation
Work's Less Acknowledged Ancestors
Are from the US and Canada

Apart from Dan Booth Cohen's book chapter, not that much is written about this. But after Africa, it seems Bert did a long quest on this continent. Those he learned from apparently include:

  • Eric Berne (transactional analysis)--born in Canada, worked in California
  • Ivan Borzomenyi-Nagy (hidden loyalties)--born in Hungary, migrated to Philadelphia at 30 yrs old
  • Milton Ericson (brief therapies)--Wisconsin
  • Arther Janov (primal)--California
  • Jacob Moreno (psychodrama)--born in Romania, migrated to the NYC at 36 yrs old
  • Virginia Satir (family sculpture)--Wisconsin

These People are Well Respected Roots
In US-Canadian Helping-Healing Circles

The thing is, if these are also grandparents of constellation work--why don't we talk more about them here? In terms of both respect in professional circles and systemic inclusion of our ancestors--this would make a lot of sense.

tunnel visionInstead we often seem to speak as if Hellinger created the method of systemic constellations from nothing. In a kind of tunnel vision, facilitators seem to attribute as completely original to Bert's insights that others also had.

"Interrupted Movement," for instance, is but a small part of "attachment theory", started by Bowlby after WWII. It's only 1 of 4 forms of infant attachment.

What if this hurts us in the US-Canadian world?

Many Reasons for US & Canada
Lagging in Adoption of Constellations--

But is this also one?

Yes of course constellations remain marginalized here because of rugged individualism, strong scientific materialism, immigrations, along with unacknowledged thefts of peoples and lands.

thinking questionmarkBut the question I would like to see us talk a bit about relates to this seeming paradox. Why do we who understand, promote, and heal human families and larger collectives not have that much family among ourselves?

Let's Start Some Discussion Now
Before the Brief and Busy
San Diego Conference

  • Many well known trainers are supporting this (see who).
  • Pay What You Want when you register.
  • Enjoy recordings and the private Facebook group if you need to miss live sessions.

Interested in Systemic Constellations?
Then You Are Invited

These conversations will look at some of the major features of systemic constellations. Click here for the schedule of dates and topics. We'll explore similarities and differences in how major facilitators interpret them--especially in the US and Canada.

Remember, this is a Pay-What-You-Want offering, and recordings of all sessions are posted for you on a private web page. So you can take part and benefit without attending the live sessions.

Information & Registration

Proof of Heaven--and Constellations Also?

newsweek heaven is realLast newsletter, I explained to you why Eben Alexander's Near Death Experience (NDE), and his book PROOF OF HEAVEN, made the cover of NEWSWEEK Magazine.

Essentially, he is a well known academic neuro-surgeon, and most of his brain was clinically dead. So there was nothing to generate hallucinations.

But his story is also, if not "proof," at least a very strong and unexpected kind of support for truths of family constellations.

Birth Parents of Orphans
Remain Very Important

birth parentsYou see the constellation perspective claims that, even with adoptees (which Eben was), ancestral life-and-love must still flow smoothly through the original birth parents. So we work to connect the child with them spiritually--even if they are unknown or already deceased.

The whole, exciting climax of Eben Alexanders story of visiting the afterlife hinges on a birth family secret. One he never knew-- because he was adopted just after being born.

Great Foster Parents

teenagers marryEben Alexander the third (named after his foster father) was the child of teenaged sweethearts, who gave him up for adoption after a few weeks. They were just too young to care for him. But then they later got married and had a large family.

Meanwhile, Eben had wonderful foster parents. When he learned he was adopted, it really just didn't matter to him. He already felt totally loved and supported.

Healthy, Happy Life and Career

Eben AlexanderAs an adult, Eben became a highly successful, academic neurosurgeon, with his own son--Eben IV. But in constellation work, we very often see that important exclusions emerge in later generations.

And it was this grandchild, Eben IV, of those forgotten birth parents--that developed a huge interest in genealogy and forced his uninterested father to look for them. So Eben III then found them, and first learned that they had indeed later gotten married and had a family (his siblings by birth).

The No-Contact Slidedecline red arrow

But when they refused any contact with him, something changed. His life and career went into what he describes as a 7 year decline. Seems like the flow of life and love from his foster family, real though it was, was after all not enough. Birth family mattered.

The Impact of Connecting

Eben III pulled himself out of that slide, and actually did connect with his birth family--all before the near death experience. Here's what he says about knowing them:


"...meeting my birth family was the first time in my life that I felt that things really were, somehow, OK . . . This was my first real education in how profoundly knowledge of one's origins can heal a person's life in unexpected ways" (p. 66)

But wait, this is only the beginning. Because Eben's NDE experience uncovered a birth family secret.

NDE's--or Life After Life

MR with Eben Alexander3

There I stood, shaking hands with a smiling man who had been pretty much brain dead for seven days, and come back to life to talk about it. It was at an ACEP conference, where I had presented on family constellations, and he was a keynote speaker.

The claim he made, in his bestselling book Proof of Heaven, was that his particular "near death experience," in which he traveled from darkness to a realm of absolute, loving light, was somehow different. It was an odd experience, meeting someone "back from the dead," and he radiated a particularly earnest, yet also peaceful sort of energy.

Apparently not a Rare Occurence

So what does "different" mean, in the realm of those who venture hours or days into the realm of death, yet still return? Well, first of all, it's a pretty large group. A Gallup poll says around eight million Americans claim to have had one. By "one" here, I mean what has been Life After Life Moody bookdubbed a "near death experience", or NDE.

In 1975, Raymond Moody wrote a book called Life After Life. He was (and still is) an MD psychologist with a background in philosophy. His book was translated again and again and has sold over 13 million copies.

Hundreds of Books on NDE's?

Although I have found no way to isolate and count them, Amazon lists certainly tens, and probably hundreds of books now on this subject.

There's one on gay NDE experiences, and another on animals' "journeys beyond death;" even a Complete Idiot's Guide to Near Death Experiences(which is actually a very excellent and comprehensive book). Clever or straightforward titles like "One with the Light," "The Science of NDE's," and "Dying to be Me" fill the search lists.

Why This Explosion of Research and Writing?

Holiday Healing Meditation--Join Us

We've got 12 wonderful people in the Healing Holiday Family Heartaches teleseminar--and we got off to a great start Tuesday. Since not everyone is live on every call (calls are recorded) --we've got room for maybe 2 or 3 more.

You Can Spread Holiday
Healings With Us Regardlessmeditation lotus

We are also each separately doing the same short meditation several times a week. It connects us with each other, with all the families having happy holiday gatherings, and sends love and compassion to those families who are not.

This little guided imagery session is only 11 minutes long, and you can do it too-- regardless of whether you are in the teleseminar or not.
Get it now.

Just Click and Relax
Your Choice, No Cost

electronic connectionsGot a few minutes a few times during your week? You can stream the MP3 or download it to your laptop, tablet, or smart phone.

Then just relax and help us form a strong web of love and light this December. Remote healing circles that focus attention and intention, even with the members at different times and places--really do work.

It's been studied in parapsychology research and solid evidence is growing. So why not give yourself (and others) a better holiday season an easy, effective, inner way?

Best Way to Do it?

Make a simple commitment to yourself, your loved ones, and allgroup meditation the mid and high latitude people impacted by the longest, darkest, coldest nights of the year.

Decide to do the 11min meditation 2, 3, 4, 5 times a week--whatever. But commit and do it regularly.

You will save yourself and others some heartaches this holiday season.

Get the meditation now.

Recent Posts

  • 1
  • 2
  • 3
  • 4
  • 5
  • 6
  • 7
  • 8

 

Family Energetics
Core Concepts

9 Week Interactive
Video Training

TUE 7:30-9:00 PM EST
JUNE 20 thru AUG 15

Worth 13.5 CEs

View online videos if you
miss any classes

How Personal & Inherited Ancestral Trauma
Shapes Your Own, Your Children
& Clients' Lives--
And What You Can Do About it

FIND OUT MORE

A Sacred Economy
PAY WHAT YOU WANT
Offering

WHAT'S THIS "SACRED ECONOMY" THING ABOUT? 

Suggested Value $189
You Pay What You Want

Private Facebook Group for
Q&A and Discussion

 

NEW
Family Energetics
Free Evenings

Learn about
Michael Reddy's
Emerging Synthesis of
Constellations, Shamanism,
Energy Psychology, & 
Internal Family SystemsTherapy

Next Meeting
"Family Energetics--
Systemic Treatment 
of Layered Trauma"
My Recent ACEP Presentation

Wed. June 21, 7:30-9pm est

FIND OUT MORE

North American Systemic
Constellations Conference

Oct. 5-8, 2017 at The Founders Inn,
 Virginia Beach, Va.

MORE INFO

Click here to read 2 blogs by Michael on their website.

 "Problem, Issue,
Theme--or Solution?"
&
"5 Facts about Personal
and Ancestral Trauma"

Free Download
Seattle Conference Poster

Three Different
Home Altar Constellations

Home Altar Poster Thumbnail

Get a quick in-depth look at the power in this kind of symbolic constellation

View or Download

Site Login

SIGN IN THE SECOND TIME YOU WANT TO COMMENT ON AN ARTICLE\n

What People Say

“Your Family Constellation coaching opened me up in a way I could not have imagined. I recommend what you offer to those looking to make positive changes in their life—especially when they find that something is inexplicably holding them back.   —Barry Epstein, Washington, DC  (More Testimonials)